Good morning, friends, followers, and family! Glad you are here this morning. After receiving a phone call from our church last week, we decided to attend in person. There were maybe thirty people, counting the new minister, and everyone masked up. I don’t know how the two ladies who sang could do so with masks on, but they did.
It was good to be in a House of God again, after attending via Facebook Live as we’d been doing since March. The pastor we knew retired in July, and now we have a younger guy, who probably will relate well to young people. I could see him having a large following among young parents, as he is one himself. He is from Arizona, so I’ll be he’ll be fun to talk with about the Nebraska winters. That is if we have one this year.
His message was pretty succinct. Our truths come from our own experiences with them. That includes religious, spiritual, political, moral, and any others you can name. Where did we learn them? Our parents, politicians, tradition, laws, preachers, peers, and whoever we have had help shape us. So what makes yours right and mine wrong? Unless you’re a criminal who regularly violates the law, yours isn’t wrong for you.
Your opinion reflects what you have absorbed, studied, and lived. You may have been exposed to different realities than I have. I have been exposed to different realities than you have. We are both free to express ourselves. Where I draw the line is, I do not want to argue points with you about those things. I agree to be different than you are, I will not call you names if your opinions are different than mine.
Aside from my 50th Class Reunion this year, I have passed another of what would have been 50 year anniversary of an event. If I were still married to the father of my children, it would have been our 50th wedding anniversary yesterday. We were married 11 1/2 years. I learned so much and changed so much during those years to begin a major shift in my belief system, one that was really mine to own, that I hardly recognize the woman I used to be. That woman had a totally different set of beliefs and values than I have grown to have.
At that time, I did not buy into gender equality. I believed all I ever wanted to do was be a wife and Mom. I was late to the equality party, but I finished raising my two sons and daughter to know they were all capable, deserving people. They saw a good work ethic. They knew they had to earn their own way. They saw how different their Dad and I are, and I thought understood why I could no longer be his wife.
It was life altering when I met the Babe. At first I thought he was serious about telling me women belong in the kitchen. I knew it wouldn’t work out. Little did I know, he was joking. We had many discussions about equality, and only after I married, did I realize I didn’t have to give up a darned thing as far as my independence went. Seriously, I didn’t. And what I gained! A supporter, cheering me on to whatever I wanted to try.
To learn your real, true truths, you must have an open mind. You must be willing to learn. You must be all about finding out why you are unhappy, what is bothering you. It takes a lot of courage to change your entire belief system from the familiar to what is right for you. It is so worth the journey, though. I found true happiness for my life by questioning what I was taught, by tradition, by parents, by peers, by society, and I’m happy I listened when God whispered in my ear about things. That’s where it all started. I was shown a way that was different, yet comfortable for me.
And now, it’s a little later on Sunday afternoon, and I’m still thinking about my truths and how they came to be. The road has been long and interesting. The discomfort I felt is gone. I belong where I am, right now. The story I’m telling in The Freeing of Katie Fitzgibbons is based on some people I have known, but all their assets and liabilities are in one small family, not among a town. I hope to be more than halfway through the story by around Thanksgiving. I have a lot of it plotted out and down, now it’s just filling in the details.
As we look forward to the first Sunday in Fall, think about your truths. Which ones will you tell? Which ones do you want to be yours? Learn, learn, learn. Question. Get information. It’s the only way you will know. Have fun exploring. I did.
Thank you for reading. I appreciate it, and hope to see you again tomorrow. Be Safe. Be Courteous. Be Kind. And Be Truthful! Bless You.