Mistakes are made by humans every day. Most folks I deal with are pretty forgiving. I admit to them I messed up, and some will claim their part of the responsibility. The best thing a boss of mine used to say was, “I don’t care who did it, I’d like you to correct it for me, please.” I think that was an important lesson to me, what a good boss would do. All that mattered was the error was corrected and not allowed to stand.
That was when I worked in an old Personnel Department. Shortly after I started working there, they became the “Human Resources Department.” We entered the big time then! I learned so much for the leaders in that department. I was focused on building a career, and became successful, learning to create opportunities. It was a valuable lesson.
Sometimes when we make mistakes, it takes a great deal of energy and preparation to correct the mistakes, especially if other people are involved. I’ve seen this in my personal life. I have chosen people to date that were not good for me. It took me a long time to admit that out loud, and even to myself. It’s easier to place blame. Sure, the other person was wrong, and so were we. I can freely admit it now. As I just did. It gets easier once you do it often.
In admitting when we’ve made mistakes offers closure. We’re not the victim. We claim our part of the mistake. We correct ourselves. And we have a lesson on how to choose better in the future. Take your time! I’ve told people before you select a mate, wait until you get to the three year mark. The first year is an infatuation phase. You may think something is cute now, but it will be tiring and not good three years from now. The second year, you express differences and see how you deal with them. The behavior here is more real life. The third year, when you make it to the fourth, is when the proof is in the pudding.
Wait a minute. What does that phrase mean? I looked up in the Urban Dictionary online. The rest of the phrase is; “The proof of the pudding is in the eating.” The original phrase means you have to consume the pudding before you can judge how good it is. The modern meaning of it is “There is a lot of evidence that I will not go into at the moment that will prove my point, you simply need to take my word for it.” It’s interesting that is just a perfect definition once you’ve passed the three year mark. It often takes that long for bad behaviors to appear. I’ve overlooked those bad behaviors and haven’t made it to a fourth year of dating.Wherever you are in your life, making the right choices for important things like living arrangements, business deals, relationships, trusting other people, and even intimacy requires making good decisions based on evidence, your gut instincts, and how you’ve seen with this person behave. It all is evidence for how good the pudding actually is.
Learning to take calculated risks wasn’t easy. I’m getting better at it. The first time is the hardest, since it’s a change of previous habits. Just keep with it. You learn even if the worst happens, chances are if you tweak it a little next time, you’ll be successful. Giving up is failure. Keeping at it just might work this time. Kind of like writing. Which I need to get to today, this Monday, July 26th, 2021. Errands to run first for the Car Show Benefit at the Post on Sunday, August 1. 11 a.m. – 3 p.m. If you’re in the Omaha, Nebraska area, join us, won’t you? Bid on some great Silent Auction Items. Help out a couple great causes!